Embracing powerful language to shape your BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL reality
I spent the afternoon in the company of some incredible women who I am lucky enough to do strength training with. What I love about this community of women is that we all do such different things, yet at the heart of our connection is the desire to live a BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL life feeling well and strong.
If you had told me a few years back that I would be in a gym 3-4 times a week lifting weights and pulling sleds and actually enjoying it, I would have laughed as I whisked myself off in a haze of sage smoke and a wafty kaftan.
Don't get me wrong, I still embrace that kooky woo feminine flow side of myself, as much as I really enjoy seeing and feeling my body getting strong and supportive as I navigate the physical changes of mid life.
Flowing between these two energies is like a language of phyisical vitality and life force.
One of the conversations I was having yesterday afternoon was about the power of language and how it creates our reality. I was joking that in the lead up to training and whilst doing the training itself, I will tell myself how much I hate it and then once I've done it I feel like I can conquer the world. It's that feeling that keeps me coming back. It's my move towards feeling.
The lovely Sophie I was chatting to said, why don't you switch out the negative chatter in the lead up and at the gym and infuse it with affirmations, such as ‘I can’t wait to get there to get strong', or with every life, ‘I love how powerful my body is’,
BOOM! Yes of course! It's something I talk about so much in my BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL work and in the BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL book, connecting to the energetic language of expansion vs. contraction.
You see, our language creates our reality. The words you speak either out loud or to yourself create a connection between intention and action.
If you tell yourself or the world you can't do something, then you can't. Tell the world and your inner world you can, or at least you are working towards it, then you can and you are freaking doing it!
So try this out for yourself throughout the week, focus on something that you know will be challenging, but that really matters to you. It may be something that you're working on that you know is going to be tough, or you might not know how you're going to do it, maybe it's something you've never done before.
Now, you're going to be wired for negative bias, so the natural state might be to go in worry first and find all the 'what ifs', that's OK, find them.
Now take those contractive fears, worries and what ifs and write them down on one side of your journal, or a piece of paper.
On the counter side to each one, write an empowering statement or mission that you can use instead.
Example,
Contractive language:
“What if I miss out an important piece of information in my meeting with my boss and they think I haven't done enough work on it. I am going to get called out as a fraud.”
Expansive language:
“I am going to review everything I need for my meeting with my boss and check to see if there's anything that could enhance this piece of work. I will come in with some toplevel ideas on what else could be added on the back of their feedback. This collaborative approach is one I thrive in and there's always more space for learning in what I do.”
Tune into the feeling that each statement brings up in your body. What feels good? Take the expansive feeling, breathe it down to your feet for a minute of so. Keep coming back to it as you move through the week, using the expansive statement and your breath as a way to create an empowered BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL reality this week (and beyond!)
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